The Clan of the cave Carey's—me and my 3 sisters and 3 brothers:

     I started being slut shamed at 14 years old after my, closest in age, sister's 30 year old boyfriend made a pass at me and my brother's 18 year old friend raped me. Who knows what my sister's boyfriend did to her toddler daughter, because her daughter said, "I don't like Kermit anymore, because Walter put his penis in Kermit's mouth." Walter enjoyed telling me about his fun mother and daughter sexual adventures. 

     My middle sister thought it would be friendly to let my childhood rapist live with her, when I was in my early 20s. He always seemed to be around, teasing and taunting me. I was a married woman at the time. The crazy shaming started when I was 23, after what happened to me at Tectronix. 

     My sister, who let my childhood rapist live with her, hasn't spoken to me since the day mom died (decades ago) and even at that time I don't think she said a word to me. She did take her phone and walk away from me to speak with my oldest sister about me.

    I was always expected to tolerate everybody's abuse, because, well, 'this one' and Tom were best friends and his death was so hard on her; and 'that one' was "retarded"; and 'this one' had a baby at 16; and dad was a POW, etc. The nasty competitive nonsense that was pushed on me all my life regarding my niece who was my age was over the top. 

     Speaking of which, my oldest sister and niece (one of the bulimics) came up with a nutty scheme to keep me from picking up my kids and taking them home with me. I was told, "the kids are fine," when I asked where they were. I didn't want any drama, so I said that their dad and I were getting back together. My sister then told my niece to go and get my kids. They even walked with us out to the car. All of it was strange, because my niece was never there, but the kids always were (and ready to go).  As soon I backed down the driveway, I called out that their dad and I weren't getting back together. My sister screamed, "get her license plate number! Call the police!" I don't know what she thought the police would do about it.

     Now that two of my brothers have contacted me, after close to 3 decades (well, three, but one crazy shamed me to my face), I'm expected to understand that it was all just a misunderstanding. They still want me to pretend that my oldest sister and the sister who was best friends with Tom weren't abusive to me all my life. They also want me to pretend their wives didn't join my sisters in leading a smear campaign against me. Mainly, my oldest sister in law. She's the biggest bitch I have ever met, other than my two sisters. The sister that's closest in age is just evil-a sociopath. She drove her husband to suicide.

     My oldest sister does the ole deny, dismiss and devalue. She would say all of this is ridiculous and it never happened. That's what she has always done. Her sidekick (closest in age sister), would start calling me every name in the book and even possibly nearly assault me (or actually assault me), while miss 'deny, dismiss and devalue' would egg her on. 

     There are alcoholics, alcoholic narcissists, bulimics, compulsive eaters, pill poppers and one who seems to have OCPD, in the Carey Cult, among others.