happy to be a solophile while waiting for my boo:

     As a, normally, very happy solophile, I don't feel the need to make friends, but in the past, I would connect with others here and there. If we became friends, they would very quickly figure out that I pretty much go along with whatever other people want to do. However, at times, I have noticed a very harsh reaction when I occasionally have a different opinion or say no to something... "you've changed. You used to be nice." 

     It's crazy to think that I'm suddenly a mean person because I say no to somebody, one time. Although, with some people, it's not just that I have said no, it's that I have to keep repeating it, again and again and again; and it's because they keep asking. It doesn't matter how many times they ask and how many ways they insult me, I will not agree to certain things. Some, so called, grownups behave like a child who has never heard the word no. While the full blown tantrum erupts from a full grown person, I'm thinking: welp, this is the end of fun times with so and so... never, ever again. 

     Thankfully, it didn't happen very often, but it did make a huge enough impression on me that I now tell people: occasionally I do have an opinion and occasionally I don't want to go along with what others choose; AND I would like that to be respected.