Full circle:

One of the best feelings in the world is to let go of the riff raff and have your own back. Always be friendly, unless they are actively being treacherous. You wouldn't want to have unnecessary guilty feelings over riff raff. 

Celebrate your loved ones, celebrate accomplishments—not worldly accomplishments (although you can, if you wish). Accomplishments that matter cannot be taken away from you, such as emotional healing; creating a fostering environment, for yourself, focused on caring for yourself. 

Also, be your own best friend, which means fortitude. Can anything come between you and your best friend? Not when you are doing your best to foster a healthy life. Can others take that away from you? Never. 

Can others take away your good reputation, your things, your money, your friends, your family? Absolutely. Fighting for any of it is not worthwhile. Can I get an amen? 

Coaching yourself to walk away, is celebrating faith and trusting God. Fighting for worldly, Christless memberships in worldly Christless, 'lip service' type organizations is unfulfilling, to say the least.

Coaching myself, healing and working through my problems cost me everything, except my girls. I will never be totally whole. Depending on wonderful spirit, caring family and choosing to forgive cold blooded people has cost me very little because of MY outlook. Each experience helps me grow and become a stronger and more forgiving person. 

Paving the way for my daughters will be my greatest accomplishment. They know I have unconditional love for them and will always have their back, without exception. 

On forgiveness: 

Choosing to forgive doesn't mean healing from abuse and smear campaigns. Choosing to forgive doesn't mean going back for more abuse. 

Choosing to forgive means abstaining from revenge and vindictivenss. Choosing to forgive means not going around and repeating embarrassing secrets and other awkward moments in the lives of those who have hurt you, especially family. Family is supposed to be sacred. Choosing to forgive means choosing your well being over another's false narrative. 

Choosing to forgive means whatever snarky things that might have been said to you or implied is forgotten, in some cases, because you know how badly you might have hurt them in the past and how much you might have let them down; and being very, very sorry for that. 

Choosing to forgive means having no expectations, no stipulations. Forgiveness is love and it's a precious gift that happens when you have someone's back, no matter what. 

Forgiveness is also love of self and having one's own back. That's the problem I see with most people—not having their own back. The obvious conclusion when someone doesn't have their own back is that they don't have yours. 

And we have now come full circle—letting go of the riff raff and having your own back. 

I guess you would call forgiveness a divine dichotomy or something.